508-510: The Abhau Family — Supporting their Gay Son, Dealing With Faith Crisis and Finding their Voice
November 20, 2014
In this very important episode of Mormon Stories, psychiatrist Daniel Parkinson M.D., who is also host of our sister podcast Gay Mormon Stories, interviews Meg, Jake and Jon Abhau.
Meg and Jake were conservative Mormons when their 13 year old son came out to them as gay 18 months ago.
In this series, the Abhaus discuss the problems that LGBT teens face in the LDS church and how those problems can spill over and impact the families of all LGBT Mormons. The Abhaus are very concerned about the damaging messages that LGBT people hear at church, and how rejection is a huge factor in the appallingly high suicide rate among LGBT teens and young adults.
Families of LGBT Mormons face a lot of hurdles as they face these issues along with their children. The coming out process changes their relationship to the church. There are some amazing families who are able to stay in the church, but many find themselves outside of the church after they resolve this new reality. The Abhaus showcase one particular family’s struggle as they fight to protect their amazing gay son.
(Programming note: this interview was done in 2 parts that were 6 months apart. This will explain the 2 different formats for the interview, but together they give a fairly in depth understanding of the Abhau’s experience.)
To see stories of LDS LGBT parents who are active in the church, and want to give a message of love to other parents and LGBT Mormons, please see the videos at LDSWalkWithYou.org. These short messages focus on helping people stay active in the church while also loving and affirming their LGBT family members.