Join me today for this truly inspiring interview with Lance Allred, the grandson of Rulon C. Allred – the prophet of a fundamentalist polygamous sect called the “Apostolic United Brethren.” In addition to this, Lance is the first legally-deaf player in NBA history, an inspirational speaker (including a highly successful TedX presentation, “What is Your Polygamy?”), and celebrated author of six books, including his most recent publication, The New Alpha Male: How to Win the Game When the Rules are Changing.
Join along as we discuss the concepts of misogyny, toxic masculinity, how they function within religions, and how we can begin to combat and “unlearn” these unhealthy habits.
More books by Lance Allred:
- Lanceallred41 Daily Perseverance Tracker
- Basketball Gods
- How to Give the Million View TEDx Talk: What is Your Polygamy?
- The Pesaro Poems
- Longshot: The Adventures of a Deaf Fundamentalist Mormon Kid and His Journey to the NBA
- The New Alpha Male: How to Win the Game When the Rules Are Changing
00:14:56 – Lance’s Mormon Story: Polygamous upbringing & the NBA
00:29:41 – Traits required of an athlete at a professional level
00:37:18 – Mormon’s are not taught how to have intimacy
00:48:46 – How Lance ended up writing this book
00:58:01 – Redefining the term “alpha” & being a leader of your own life
01:18:15 – “Stonewalling” & the absence of self-reflection – the opposite of accountability
01:27:51 – Disingenuity – the opposite of integrity
01:40:45 – Aggression & rigidity – the opposite of compassion
01:56:51 – Discomfort & the “happy ending” complex in mormonism
02:17:39 – Resistance & stubbornness – the opposite of acceptance
02:27:44 – Transformation
02:32:23 – Anger and resentment – the opposite of forgiveness & gratitude
02:34:10 – Scale
02:42:09 – “The Gift of the Mormon Faith Crisis” Podcast
02:53:32 – Conclusion