Up until experiencing my crisis of faith, I have loved nearly every aspect of my Mormon life. I believe that I have benefited tremendously from my LDS upbringing, and I wholeheartedly affirm that the LDS Church can inspire people to live incredibly happy, healthy, productive, meaningful lives. I believe that my Mormon identity is “in my bones,” and I do not believe that my Mormon identity can be taken off and discarded at the end of the day like a dirty shirt. As a psychologist, I know that religious identity does not work this way for many (perhaps most).
In addition, I have observed other religious traditions (e.g., Catholic, Episcopalian, Reform Judaism, Community of Christ), and I know that these traditions have matured over the years, eventually making room for progressive thought, open questioning, doubt, and even dissent. Consequently, my desire to stay LDS/Mormon is an act of faith and love towards the LDS Church and its people, with hopes that the church can eventually mature to the point where it can make room for all — LGBT individuals, feminists, intellectuals, scientists, doubters, skeptics, and even heretics. For more information about why I have chosen to stay in the church, see here.