In the letter I received from my stake president (Dr. Bryan King), he wrote the following:
“You should also be aware that if you choose to have your name removed from Church records, I feel it is important to make an appropriate announcement to the adults in the stake that you have chosen this option.”
We also knew that a stake-level disciplinary council would involve at least 15 men, and could not reliably be kept confidential. After discussing this situation with my wife, we decided that this situation was not going to allow us to leave the church quietly and discreetly (if that were even our desire to do so). In addition, when I learned that Kate Kelly had received a similar letter within a day of my own letter, I knew that media attention was inevitable — and determined that contacting the media might be my only hope of calling off the investigation.