In these episodes of Mormon Stories, John and Margi have a discussion with Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST about forming a foundation for marriage that withstands change.  They also discuss guiding principles to maintaining successful relationships.

In Part 1, John, Margi and Natasha discuss:

  • Differentiation: the constant tension between “me” and “we” in marriage
  • Respect/friendship in a relationship
  • The Protection Model vs the Intimacy Model
  • Avoiding power differentials in a relationship
  • Challenging the rhetoric of “co-dependence”

In Part 2, John, Margi, and Natasha discuss:

  • Creating positive communication and protecting marriage when believing family tries to place blame on a spouse
  • Belonging to yourself and choosing to share in significant ways as the best method to building intimacy
  • Common relationship myths
  • Vulnerability within relationships
  • How self-discovery and relationship renovation enhances relationships


Part 1 (5/2/2017):

Part 2 (5/9/2017):


Part 1:

Part 2:


The Seven Principles for making marriage work:

Values worksheets:

Natasha Parker

Mormon Mental Health Association

Circumplex Model

Values Resource

Act Mindfully

One Comment

  1. Diana May 28, 2017 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    This was so well done! Thank you to John, Margi, and Natasha for your advice and wisdom. I have been married for 15 years, and since I lost my faith in the LDS church my relationship with my believing husband has suffered, at times incurring seemingly irreparable damage. This podcast has given me so much to not only think about, but also tools to better our communication. Thank you so much to all of you! You really are making a difference in the lives of so many.

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