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  1. Thank you so much for helping so many members and non-members process how indoctrination happens (works) in the Mormon Church. You are doing great works. I admire the courage it takes to share your experiences and help so many. It seems to me members rationalize the good the church does being contingent on Mormon indoctrination. Everything good about the cult can be done without the terrible falsehoods and indoctrination.

  2. Your offer is interesting, John, but it is very sexist including only male leaders and a woman as their wife. Why not include Relief Society ward and stake presidents? Just because the LDS Church is so patriarchal doesn’t mean that you need to follow suit!

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  3. Listening to this very moving podcast, it suddenly occurred to me that the phrase “being released” from a calling is a strange choice of words. When one hears that someone is being released, that generally brings to mind being set free from a trap or prison or some other unasked-for and often painful, difficult situation. I wonder how that phrase came to be in use regarding callings.

  4. Great statement from Adam at 2:51:24-ish – – – ” Can I investigate without a pre-concluded outcome? Where I had already determined that the church has to be true.”

    Thank you

  5. This was yet another great podcast. Thank you John. I am curious… Is your standing offer to interview any person that holds or has held a high level leader ship position a continuation of the virtual idolization of members of the Mormon hierarchy?

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  6. Listening to Adam speak about his time as Bishop amongst the Navajo/ Hopi First Nation people perpetrating false “truth” about Native Americans being descendants of Israelites made me feel sick. The LDS Church has known for decades that the DNA/genetic evidence proves 100% that “Lamanites” are not genetically traced to peoples of Middle East origin. As a person of First Nations descent, it offends me to no end that this untruth is still bring perpetrated by LDS Church, and it’s missionaries to this day. Adam, have you ever thought of apologizing to the Navajo/Hopi people in the Ward/Stake you served in, and letting them know publicly that Joseph Smith lied about origin of the Lamanites and that he made it all up. Thank you Adam & Marlana for sharing your exit story with post Mormons and current active Mormons.

  7. How crazy is the in-grained mentality / deep psychology that someone throws up a number of times as a part of getting it out of your system.

  8. I enjoyed this podcast. It took me a few sessions to get through it due to length, but something I heard just before turning it off the other day stood out to me. They were talking about prophets and how members are supposed to trust them implicitly, and how they change what’s said or what’s true over time, and the church excuses it as they were men speaking as men and so forth and members should believe what’s being said right now. This didn’t strike me as an inherently wrong or bad thing though–hasn’t science changed over the years too? We change as we learn and understand more? In the 80s eggs were bad and fat was bad so people changed their diets and the obesity epidemic ensued. In times past doctors treated patients in ways that seem cruel and barbaric now, but as we learn better, we change. I haven’t been to church in well over 20 years, so I don’t have a dog in the fight, but I don’t think people changing rhetoric over time is inherently wrong or that it proves falsehood. I find the church to be problematic for a lot of other reasons, but this one isn’t really on the list. Can someone weigh in and tell me why I’m wrong?

    1. I agree that it’s common for organizations to grow with more understanding over time. This becomes an issue when the prophet claims to speak directly as if God is speaking. His words are His words. They also doctrinally believe that God is unchanging. When the church disavows the doctrine that former prophet’s spoke, they are, by their own belief, disavowing God’s word. Also, if the prophets were so wrong then, how can we know they are correct now? When are they speaking for God and when are they speaking as a man?
      The problems continue when you look at the surrounding issues for some of the policy changes. For example, changing the doctrine, that now they claim was only a theory, for Blacks and the priesthood also came at a time when BYU’s tax exempt status was threatened.
      There is also no clear acknowledgement or apologies for past doctrines that are now disavowed by current church leaders. It’s all swept under the rug or blatantly hard to fund, which is an unethical practice. “God’s elect” should be held to a higher standard.

  9. Marlana and Adam,
    Thank you for sharing your journey with such intelligence, candor, and empathy!
    Marlana, ironically (or not) I threw up after visiting Nauvoo nearly 20 years ago because I imagined the young girls Joseph Smith had taken while I was visiting the Mansion House- so I do understand the visceral reaction you’ve had…
    You’re both courageous, and I thank you for being committed to future generations having an informed decision available and not merely the glossy, sanitized, theme park presentation presented by the SLC church.

  10. Really enjoyed the podcast. I have one objection to the modesty discussion. First, I agree, the boy/girl double standard to protect boys by controlling girls is nuts. My wife and I used to provide the music for Stake dances in 1994 and the skirt measuring at the door drove me crazy. Girls were being sent home over an inch!! However, you don’t solve one “extreme” problem by going to the other extreme. It was communicated in the podcast that if girls choose to dress “provocatively” that’s simply the boys’ problem. Is there not a mutual responsibility here? Modesty is about respect for self and others and not controlling or provoking.

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