We are a group of women 40+ with longer life experiences. We are grandmothers, mothers, aunts, single, divorced, widowed or married. We are LGBT friendly and feminists! Many of us are just learning feminism. Having felt the pain of patriarchy, but not having a “language” to describe our experiences, we are giving ourselves permission to flourish and grow with no limitations or constructs.

Many of us are at the beginning of a life we never imagined. We have had to make tough decisions, been tried by our choices, and some of us have lost important connections along the way. Being of a “certain age” makes it harder to make friends and to find a community of like-minded souls with whom to move forward with love, joy and friendship. We realize that our decisions can affect many generations, so our time is spent fostering relationships with our loved ones and excelling in our careers, businesses, and at home, all of which leaves little time and opportunity to make new friends.

This group is for “women of a certain age” or lovingly called WOCA (Wah-kah). We also have a group for “women of a certain age” and under. This age group, affectionally known as the UNDERS is from 30-40. The final group under the umbrella of WOCA are the COCAs. These are “Couples of a Certain Age” for those wishing to participate as couples. And housed inside of COCA is the “men only” group which meet regularly in men-only events.

WOCA activities are NOT within the paradigm of our former religious background, although themes from our lived experiences may come up. We have transitioned from our former organized religious choices and wish to create wonderful spaces where ALL people with commonalities can come together, share and find community.

If you would like to join us, please contact, from the list below, the appropriate person from your geographical area by way of Facebook messenger.

Wasatch (The Mother Ship): Christine Elkington & Kim Turner
COCA: Brett Nord
UNDERS: Ruth Tyson
Phoenix: Amy Grubbs
Boston: Amy Grubbs
Las Vegas: Christine Elkington
Bay Area: Kim Turner
Texas: Lisa Keyes
So-Cal: Lisa Durtschi
Idaho: Lisa Keyes
Sacramento: Lisa Keyes
Seattle: Nicole Bruderer
Cedar City/St. George: Nicole Bruderer
Denver: Ruth Tyson
Florida: Kim Turner
Oregon: Kim Turner

And if where you live isn’t on the list, please join our ONLINE group and be with women around the world just like you!

ONLINE: Kim Turner & Christine Elkington


  1. Kim Turner March 19, 2017 at 10:47 am - Reply

    I said I only have two friends from my ward that have maintained friendship with me. I was being sarcastic and flustered (I don’t do well on the spotlight) . There are not two but six. And lots of smilers and wavers! We’ve been one of the lucky ones with only two shunning experiences! But the six are some of the most Christlike people I know–and you know who you are.❤

  2. LH March 19, 2017 at 3:47 pm - Reply

    This was really interesting to listen to. My mom was good friends with Christine Elkington years ago so I have some memories of her from when I was a kid. It was really cool to hear her thoughts.

    I wish there was a group like this for single women who leave in their late 20s/30s. My transition might have been a little easier. The support and friendship this group shares is amazing. Kudos to these women for welcoming any and all.

    • Christine Elkington March 19, 2017 at 7:22 pm - Reply

      LH, I would love to know who you are (and who your mom is)! If you’d like, you can contact me on Facebook. Thanks for your kind words!

  3. Bob March 20, 2017 at 10:49 am - Reply

    Are any of these women single?

  4. Laura March 20, 2017 at 12:07 pm - Reply

    Such a fun and witty group of women. I laughed through the whole interview, but lost my tears when Lisa shared her experience of waiting outside the temple while her son was married…. with WOCA friends by her side. I’m touched beyond words by this act of genuine love for one another. You women ROCK and I hope to soon be part of your awesome group.

  5. Marianna Blake-Taylor March 23, 2017 at 2:27 pm - Reply

    So glad to hear your shero is Michele OBama. What a class act!

  6. shari anderson August 18, 2018 at 11:01 pm - Reply

    I was wondering how to get on the online group

  7. Larry Ballard December 29, 2019 at 9:20 am - Reply

    There is a book titled Women’s Ways of Knowing that discusses how women learn juxtaposed against how men learn. As a man, I learned a great deal regarding an approach to life other than patriarchy. It is written by not one; but three ladies. That alone represents a new way of thinking that is different than the masculine hierarchical approach. It is mind expanding. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/139850.Women_s_Ways_of_Knowing

  8. Dixie Burrell September 25, 2023 at 3:30 am - Reply

    How do I get on the online group?
    I do not have a website.

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