A strong trigger warning leads off this special Mormon Stories episode with our guest who prefers to be referred to as “Rachel ” for this interview. We discuss Rachel’s father being called as a mission president, the abuse she endured, and the subsequent cover-up from those in positions of power in the LDS church.
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Timecodes (for video):
3:30 Why Rachel is doing this interview
10:00 Mormon Story begins
16:20 What factors might have contributed to her dad being abusive
21:00 Parents relationship
23:30 Father being called as mission president
30:25 Adjusting to life post mission and abuse begins
40:31 Verbal abuse, changing behavior
41:47 Why Rachel didn’t speak up earlier, purity culture
47:50 Mom seeing signs of Rachel’s depression, starting therapy, everything coming out
59:00 Not involving law enforcement
1:02:10 Feeling supported by her mom, father confessing to bishop
1:05:00 Epidemic of abuse, father’s punishment
1:11:00 Pressure to keep quiet
1:16:20 Therapist not speaking up
1:18:50 Boundaries, being stalked in own home
1:32:06 The effects of Rachel not being taken seriously, acting bratty
1:36:45 Callings in the ward, telling her brother
1:46:45 Breaking the silence in Mormonism
1:55:40 Effects into adulthood
1:57:10 Telling a bishop in her early 20s
2:01:00 Can the atonement change and cure everything?
2:07:00 Bishop coming into Rachels work, feeling a connection to other abuse survivors
2:10:32 Leaders feeling guilty?
2:16:20 Rachel realizing things are complicated
2:19:50 Who you disclose to, support system
2:22:16 Privilege, victims finding healing
2:33:14 Isn’t there abuse everywhere?
2:39:00 Atonement theology, can we endure to the end?
3:01:08 Rachel going inactive, marrying a non-member
3:03:50 Joseph marrying a 14-year-old girl disturbing Rachel
3:14:30 Having her records removed from the church
3:23:30 How Rachel decided to come on Mormon Stories
3:29:18 Calling the church, speaking with Dan McKonkie, doing better
3:42:05 The church cares more about protecting pedophiles than children
3:49:20 Closing thoughts and thank yous